Signs Of Serious Relationship Problems

Signs Of Serious Relationship Problems. Good relationships run smoothly and enable you to enjoy your life, work,

and activities beyond the relationship.

You’re not always worrying or talking about it. Like a smooth-running car, you don’t have to keep repairing it. You

may have disagreements and get angry, but you still have goodwill toward one another, talk things over, resolve

conflicts, and return to a loving, enjoyable state.

Cars do need maintenance, however. Take care of it, and it performs better. Relationships also take time and effort

to maintain an intimate connection. This happens naturally in the initial romantic stage when you want to get to know

your partner, spend time together, have frequent sex, and be more open and flexible. You’re less willing to

compromise and may want less intimacy. Even if you don’t argue, you may return to the same emotional state you

were in before you met — or worse — and wonder where your love went or whether your partner loves you. This is

where the “struggle for intimacy” is required to maintain that love connection.

Here are some warning signs that your relationship may be in trouble. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s not

salvageable or that you can’t get the love connection back, but it does mean you both need to have honest

communication and may need the assistance of marriage counseling. The following list of relationship problems

applies to either you or your partner. They’re also common characteristics of codependent relationships, and

codependency may be the underlying issue.

Signs Of Serious Relationship Problems

Inflexibility or repeated unwillingness to compromise on decisions, such as social activities, chores, moving, and

having children. Selfishness or self-involvement with your feelings and needs, without concern and support for those

of your partner Meddling by parents. Repeated deference to a friend or relative over your partner’s objection.

Repeated instances of critical, undermining, blaming, sarcastic, disrespectful, or manipulative comments. This is

verbal abuse. A pattern of withholding communication, affection, or sex. This is often a sign of veiled anger.

Arguments or problems that don’t get resolved Raging or name-calling Keeping secrets Passive-aggressive or

aggressive behavior, including shoving or breaking objects. Controlling behavior, including giving unwanted advice,

ordering, or withholding money for affordable expenses to control A secret romantic relationship or pattern of flirting

Use of drugs or alcohol that impacts the relationship or work.

Solutions to marriage problems

Too much time apart if it causes your partner dissatisfaction. Persistent resentments, judgments, or disappointments.

Lack of open communication generally, or communication that lacks personal content. Note that this may not be a

problem for some couples with low intimacy needs, where their relationship functions well like a business

partnership. Breakdown of trust. This can be caused by numerous things, such as dishonesty, using personal

information against your partner, unreliability, broken promises or agreements violating personal boundaries, or

infidelity. You need constant attention, validation, or reassurance – whatever’s given is never fulfilling for very long.

Some subjects are off-limits or you’re afraid to talk about. Violating personal boundaries, such as disrespecting your

request to not be called at work, not having confidential information repeated to others, not being criticized about

something, or not reading your mail

lack of healthy, assertive communication — communication that is open, direct, respectful, honest, and personal.

Couples get into problems when they’re afraid to be honest — usually because they think the truth will upset their

partner and might jeopardize the relationship. They don’t express their hurt or ask for the love or support they want,

or they do so in a way that’s critical or blaming. People learn to communicate and problem-solve with others in their

family growing up. Without good role models, some never learned how to be assertive. Assertiveness can be

learned but takes practice.